A teen’s perspective.
National Coming Out Day (NCOD) is celebrated on October 11. NCOD serves as an awareness day for anyone in the LGBT or LGBT ally communities. NCOD has become a movement in many countries nationwide.
As popular as this day is, it’s crazy to think that every day teens are facing fears that discourage them from coming out to their family and friends. 84% of LGBT teens report verbal harassment at school due to their gender identity and sexual orientation. Getting bullied is just one of the many fears teens face when coming out, others include:
Parental and Family rejection:
“The most important person in my life is my mom. I needed her guidance through this tough time. I felt alone and lost when she didn’t accept who I was.”
Being rejected by parents is about the biggest fear for teens. Some families have an easier time accepting the news, but that’s not the case for all. It’s important for teens to have a supportive family to help them become comfortable with who they are.
Rejection of friends:
“I didn’t see myself the way others saw me, because I was scared to show them who I really was. I felt trapped. I was scared to tell my friends.”
Aside from family, having acceptance from friends is just as important for teens in their coming out stage. Many fear of friends getting distant or not approving of the LGBT lifestyle. Losing a friend for not accepting you for who you are can be devastating. It is important to be respectful of each other, and educate friends on the importance of this issue. Joining ally groups is helpful.
Religious Acceptance:
“Religion has always been a big part of my life, knowing that I might not be accepted by my church made me feel horrible.”
Overcoming religious views can be a big struggle for anyone. Teens need to find guidance and acceptance in other ways that they can. Having positivity around them is key.
Remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
“I accepted who I was and found comfort in my own skin. I realized you have to believe in yourself and do what makes you happy. Everyone has the right to live their life the way they want to, because there is no wrong way to live it.”
Despite the obstacles faced when coming out, many teens have found their experience to be rewarding. Everyday organizations and support groups are working to provide support.
Quotes by: Diana Gomez, 18 @dianaaairis
Art work by: Michelle Sirk, 17
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